Showing posts with label good company. Show all posts
Showing posts with label good company. Show all posts

Tuesday, October 22, 2013

Conversations in College

I was casually catching up with a friend and it came to the point when I asked what they had planned for the weekend ahead. Back in college, the typical answer would range from "going out", "getting wasted", "getting high" or "getting it on". Yes, that was college. However, and to my surprise, his answer were along these lines (I wish I could quote word by word knowing how much I have rewinded to this conversation):

"Tonight, I simply want to be in good company."

Granted, it can mean any and perhaps even all of the above for all I know. The unexpected response initially amused me so I didn't think anything of it, I didn't really understand. I wanted to refer to this when I wrote my post "Hurt or Injured?", in fact, I think this post is an extension or maybe a precedent, whichever you feel is more appropriate. The worst case scenario is when you find yourself a couple years later as a Junior or Senior still having those underdeveloped and immature idea of "social" events and avoiding intimate face-to-face interactions. I'll be the bearer of bad news because there isn't much to gain in these fleeting adventures especially when they're chronic; that's Peter-Pan Complex honey (it actually exists).

I admired the maturity and vulnerability in his response that many people won't admit to although we all crave for these connections especially after those long nights. It's something to certainly experience "being in good company" and having tireless conversations about faith, unfulfilled dreams, secret fears and hopes. The temporary pleasures of an extremely fast-paced generation has outweighed the intimacy and luxury of simple conversations.

To be in good company and get lost in even greater conversations, yes please.

Where have the good conversations gone too?


"I have the deepest affection for intellectual conversations. The ability to just sit and talk. About love, about life, about anything, about everything. To sit under the moon with all the time in the world, the full-speed train that is our lives slowing to a crawl. Bound by no obligations, barred by no human limitations. To speak without regret or fear of consequence. To talk for hours and about what’s really important in life." -Anonymous

Saturday, July 13, 2013

Hurt or Injured?

Independence is one thing but, too often, we have confused this with isolation and our pride pushes us to believe we can take on the world on our own. I'm all for self-sufficiency and finding what makes me happy, -yes, we choose and make our happiness as well as how we want want to act towards these instances- however, I won't deny that there are times when good company is much appreciated.
We are social beings, why else in the world are there 7,092,362 other people (10:10PM) roaming this Earth as I speak... -er, type? I have found myself trapped in déjà-vu conversations of people being so fearful of opening up or getting attached for x reasons and all I could think of was, "What a shame that no one ever got to know you because you made yourself an obstacle." You are hurting the present by allowing your past to be an excuse for your future. Our reluctance to try because of likelihood of getting hurt has instead hindered potentially great relationships ! Occasionally, things may simply fall apart for the better and for no reason. I rarely dwell but lately I can't help but wonder about my lost friendships: where would things be if we actually tried? Could they have made me a better person? How different would I have been?
We become too afraid to make things work but ask yourself if you are hurt or injured; take a breather while you are on the floor, cloud-watch and swim a bit longer in your depression but, if and when you can, get back up. Make an impression in someone's life, stir them up emotionally and mentally; push your surroundings to be better versions of themselves and get rid of the mindset that we are competing to outshine each other.